So I was at church last Sunday when the pastor started ranting about how women who were in the Women's Rights movement were out of line and most were 60 years old childless and alone. Well, as a child of a woman who was a part of that movement and a very strong woman and business woman I was a bit irritated. (My mother was in front of me I would have loved to have seen her face.) He went on to say that women should be submissive and shouldn't be a nag to their husband. Again, miffed. However, he did recover. He stated that women should not be doormats either. They should support their husbands and take care of the household. Men should be men so that the women could be women. They should lead the family and lead by example. They should be strong enough so that women did not feel that the needed to step in out of necessity.
This struck a cord with me. As a wife and a mother there are certain things I am just naturally better at. There are certain instincts I have that my husband does not. For instance, knowing when McKalyn is hungry vs tired. Then there are things he is just naturally better at. He is a hard worker and likes hard work, I on the other hand do not. I like to work but I like to do it my way. I am a leader and an organizer. He is the hunter and gatherer. As I watch McKalyn I notice that without prompting she is also an organizer. She also likes more feminine things even though she has never been taught to. (I am sure this is not unusual but as a first time mom I was intrigued) I am also happier when I am at home with my daughter and managing the household and Quad is happier when is able to work and provide for his family. Does that mean that I feel the women's place is in the home? ABSOLUTELY NOT! I am natural worker. I like to work and I like knowing that I do not need to depend on someone else. I love my independence. That's why I work for myself. I believe we need to do what comes naturally. Maybe if we did we would have much happier homes and much lower divorce rates.
